Self Esteem For Weight Loss
Self Esteem is an important part of weight loss. The main reason people gain weight or are overweight is because of self esteem issues or emotional issues. Some people may argue and say that the “bad food” like chocolate, sugar, etc just make them feel good.
My problem.
I didn’t think that my weight gain was because of some suppressed childhood issues. But it’s was. As a child, I was a skinny little thing but as I got older, I started gaining a little bit of weight. Not much, but I was always about five or ten pounds heavier than my friends. Even then, I thought that was a huge difference.
This caused a cascade. I always thought that I was larger….and therefor, I was larger. And it progressed from there. My sister was smaller than I was and used to tease me. My parents were culprits of this teasing also. It frustrated me, because I kept thinking…”I’m not that overweight.” Which caused me to over eat more. Chocolate was my vise…anything chocolate.
Later in life, as I became more aware of other people’s negative attitudes, I would observed them put each other down. I was present and paying attention. I confronted them. I asked them why they were putting each other down? Their response was that they were trying to motivate the other to lose weight. I could see their point, but they were going about it the wrong way. Positive reinforcement is much more effective than negative.
Instead I suggested that instead of calling each other names, that both my parents go for walks together. Even if one is thinner than the other, this is a positive way to get the other motivated without putting them down. Also, the way we say things is important. For example, If you say “Let’s go for a walk because YOU need to lose weight.” That is still negative and will not get the other person motivated. A better way would be to say “I think WE should start walking everyday, it will really improve OUR health.” This is essentially saying the same thing, without singling the other person out.
Think about my story above and how it applies to your life. Do you talk to your parents, peer, co-workers, friends or children in a negative way. If so, please remember that you will be impacting their lives in a negative way. When words are coming out of your mouth, think about what you are saying instead of just blurting out a pre-conditioned thought.
If you have been impacted by this type of behaviour, remember that it was their pre-conditioned thoughts that were coming out. Those people were unconscious of what they were saying. It is likely that they were treated in the same manner as you were being treated.
When we put others down, it is because we are trying to boost our own ego. Likely because it was put down by others when we were younger. Patterns are difficult to break, however, I think that it is important to try. We are not perfect and we make mistakes. And that’s OK.
I sometimes make mistakes with my children and encourage them in a negative way…and then I remember and try to undo the negative I have done. It is never too late. But as I proceed each day, I am getting better at catching myself become unconscious and “wake up” before I do more damage. It takes time, but it can and it will be done.
Now, lets get to the tools. Depending on what works for you, you can choose from the items below. I would give them all a try if you are not sure. Before you can begin any type of weight loss formula, you need to feel good about yourself.
Once you have mastered your mind, you can move onto the physical aspect of losing weight.
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